25 July 2015

How To Accept Your Physical 'Flaws'

 Let me you remind you of a scene it in a little film you may have heard of: 'Mean Girls'
Look familiar? It seems every girl has had these little mirror-hating moments. Whether it's a solo abusive session or a full blown group bash, our mirrors seem to bring out dark self-hating statements like a death eater sucking out a soul. Wow.. that was a nerdy metaphor!

All jokes aside, according to research gurus at The Guardian, plastic surgery procedures are rising on average 16% per year.  With a whopping one of five in these operations been affected by complications, it's seriously disturbing! After all, I'd rather have a small chest than a botched chest.

Ok, so I'm not exactly the Mother Teresa of body image, but I do think it's time that we stopped the self hatred and accepted ourselves for who we are; and that's sexy, independent women!

Let's bring on the self love!

Ok... so the other day I logged onto Twitter. 'Ah one new follower'. Oh. My face dropped. 'Ugly people quotes'. I laughed it off, realizing that if I had read that a year or two ago, it would have really affected me.

I owe a lot to both traveling and my blog. Together, alongside some other self help techniques, I have found myself accepting my physical appearance, despite, in the past, considering both lip injections and a nose job.

Now I can look in the mirror without wanting to pelt it with bricks. **Getting totes emosh remembering the self-conscious 16 year old me**

Honestly, what is the point of this self hatred? Why would we look in the mirror and internally scream 'thunder thighs' at ourselves when we wouldn't dream of doing it to anyone else?

It's time to stop bullying ourselves... 

Learn To Accept Compliments
When was the last time you gladly accepted a compliment? Is it just me, or do women always seem to answer back a compliment with some critical quip about themselves? 

According to this could have been drilled into us by cultural expectations and standards. We don't want to be seen as 'narcissistic', so we have learnt to reply to these positive comments by putting ourselves down.

Next time you receive a compliment, take it! You deserve it girl! Even better, send a compliment back the other way and make someone else feel great too!

Think of Them as 'Flaws' Not Flaws
Ok, your cellulite is not  a flaw it's a **does huge dramatic quotation mark** 'flaw'. It has not been proven as a flaw in any way medically. Does it effect your health? No-sir-ee! That cellulite is totally in your head, chances are, people around you won't have even noticed it. 

Instead of thinking of that little bit you would change as a flaw, think of it as something that is merely your perception of yourself: it IS NOT something physical. Then separate yourself from that perception completely, write it on a piece of paper and burn it. 

Practice Self Love
Despite this title seeming a little bit, erm, seedy... this type of self-love is where you concentrate on the parts of yourself that you do love. Got wash board abs- flaunt em! Doe eyes? Concentrate on them next time you find yourself glancing into a mirror. 

Got a spare second? I want you to grab a notebook and write ten things about yourself that are totally awesome. Keep that notebook handy at look at it on your down days, it will remind you just how darn sexy you really are!

Holistic therapists also swear by the 'I love you' approach. As bizarre as it sounds, looking in the mirror and saying 'I love you' to yourself each and every day has proved to significantly improve self esteem. Free self-esteem improvement? Sign us up!

Your Opinion on YOU Is All That Matters
I remember when I was back in University, a total **insert appropriate swear word** of a guy told me I had the ugliest smile he'd ever seen. It got to me, and, you may have noticed, I never show a teeth smile on my blog photos. 

You know what... there!

My point is that we shouldn't let other peoples opinions affect us so much. I know it's hard, but we are the only people that we spend our entire lives with. Would you rather be friends with that person or enemies?

Accept Them

We may all want to look like Candice Swanepoel. But can you imagine how boring the world would be if we did? It would look like a scene from minions, and hey: who wants to be a minion?

Although society puts this immense pressure on young women to look like this stereotypical image of beauty', it is only our perception of ourselves that can take this pressure away.

Can you honestly say that Leah Michele would be as beautiful if she had a nose job? Or that Rebel Wilson would be more charismatic if she lost weight? NO WAY!

All we can do is be the best and most beautiful versions of ourselves. Exercise, embrace your own personal sense of style and be kind and loving to those around you.

It's time for generation acceptance. Are you in?


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  1. Really insightful ideas, and quite nice of you to share. Greetings!

  2. Wow, so helpful, I really love that part when you wrote about learning to accept compliments! Great job! :)

  3. Ahh I love topics and reading words like this. I admit I sometimes can't accept some of my physical flaws, haha! But I gotta learn how to accept it and to be proud <3 Love your post :)

  4. Great post! I know I have many flaws, and once I learned to accept them, I've been so much more confident. I find that having a smile on your face at all times helps others see you for you, rather than focusing on your flaws. If you are down and out about them, people are more likely to try to figure what's wrong. It invites them to look for your flaws out of sheer curiosity. I say-- just rock them! Love yourself. Smile! And know that you only have one life to live! There's no time to waste on being down about things you cannot change.

    Connie | Sponsored by Coffee | Etsy

  5. Beautiful post, I wish all people can read this to help with self image ;)

    Wow, beautiful. Europe is splendid. Great photographs ;)

    The Flower Duet

  6. Great post! I have nothing against people getting cosmetic surgery because at the end of the day, that's their bodies and they can do what they want with it. It has also helped many people be happy after getting procedures done.
    I also agree that promoting a more positive self image will decrease the chances of someone wanting to go through plastic surgery.

    Jules ||

  7. I agree with what you said that we should accept out beauty! 2 days ago, I watched Buzzfeed about the lips injection and it was probably one of the scariest thing I have ever seen. In Thailand, people always want to look white and inspired by the Korean trend, so there are lots of people who craze about the plastic surgery to make they have V shape face, thing lips and big eyes. Sometimes, it is dangerous to inject or put the chemical/artifact elements in to our bodies though!

  8. Good post! I think it's hard for people these days as they don't realise just how much work goes into making people 'beautiful'. There are even apps to photoshop instagram pictures! Anyone can look 'pretty' with a computer helping them, haha!
    it's true we should be kinder to ourselves :)

    Away From The Blue Blog

  9. I totally agree with you!! Great reminder.

  10. Great post Rachel Beth! Let's accept who we are! ;) Thanks for addressing this Miss!

  11. What an AMAZING post Rachel! Accepting who we are is liberating and pure self love. I can relate to everything you said and I totally understand the pain we put ourselves through when we try to be who we are not. Thanks so much for sharing this super insightful post and you look beautiful smiling:-) Have a blessed life my sweet friend. You are Magnificent!!! XOXO, Jeannette

  12. I love your post Rachel, so helpful!!!!
    Great Job!
    Happy sunday!
    xo Paola
    My Facebook

  13. that is such a great lesson of how to improve self-confidence and live hapily in a world full of cultural expectations and high standards
    thank you for sharing this, my dear

  14. that is such a great lesson of how to improve self-confidence and live hapily in a world full of cultural expectations and high standards
    thank you for sharing this, my dear

  15. Girl, I so needed this post... it's so hard to pick out your flaws (and feel totally crap about it) all the time, definitely *attempting* to follow these points :)


  16. Great post! It's super crazy with the internet/social media generation and all you get so used to thinking that everyone else looks like a model! Always good to take a step back and remember that it's ok to be 'flawed' :)

    Anoushka Probyn - A London Fashion Blog

  17. Beautiful post, I wish all people can read this to help with self image!!!


  18. This is an empowering post! Very well done. We should definitely learn to appreciate our flaws :).

    xx Izzy | Qthee

  19. Loved this post, so valid and uplifting and I liked all the pictures you used. Nice reminder that everyone has 'flaws' and go through the exact same thought process as you!

    Tia |

  20. Amazing post! I like your message, we should all learn to accept compliments and love our looks


  21. You are indeed right we should love what we have and be contented to it.
    This is God's gift to us.
    I'm happy that you didn't pursue those "job" thing.

    The Bandwagon Chic | Instagram | Bloglovin | Snapchat: bandwagonchic

  22. Well said!!!

    The Cutielicious

  23. Every woman is beautiful in her own way ,sometimes I see my flaws as beautiful imperfections, probably because they have a story behind it. Really enjoyed reading this. Thanks for sharing and have a great Sunday.

  24. Every woman is beautiful in her own way ,sometimes I see my flaws as beautiful imperfections, probably because they have a story behind it. Really enjoyed reading this. Thanks for sharing and have a great Sunday.

  25. Every woman is beautiful in her own way ,sometimes I see my flaws as beautiful imperfections, probably because they have a story behind it. Really enjoyed reading this. Thanks for sharing and have a great Sunday.

  26. This is so helpful and yes I agree on this. Our flaws or flaw is what makes us beautiful, that's what I believe in :)

    Dice, '96 Wild Heart

  27. Insecurities attack all of us every once in a while, some have more than others, and then that saying comes "If you're not happy with something change it". But that shouldn't mean resolving to plastic surgery, allowing Dr's we don't even know cut and twist muscles inside of us to fit into the this so called "idea of 'beautiful'. It's weird because as we grow we have many crushes on sooo many people. Some we still like and some we think whoooaaa, and thats just proof that beauty isn't just one look or in one form. We are all individuals at the end of the day, we don't all love the same things. So why should we allow media to make us evolve into one being? lovely blog post, have a great day

  28. Great post! I really agree.
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  29. Such an inspirational post Rachel! We all must learn to accept our flaws & stay confident!
    Have a great weekend!

  30. I love this- so positive !

  31. Despite you really can love you for your beauty I want to congratulate you for your true post. For me it is especially interesting as when I was younger I had much more difficulties with my own apprearance. But now in my middle age I know that I had at this times the advantage of youth :) Now it's too late and therefore I prefer it not to think too much about how I look :)
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

  32. Beautiful interesting post.

  33. Simple and to the point. We are all beautiful in our own way! Plus even though you and I may think Candice is gorgeous, I know many people who do not think she's beautiful at all. Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder!

    Heba xx || The Heba

  34. Aww what a good read. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. great blog!

  35. Rachel such great sentiments you brought to light here. Especially true are the ones about women accepting compliments. These are all things I've had on my mind lately and I have made a very conscious effort to enforce in my daily life. I don't want my little cousins thinking it's ok to call ourselves fat, or that hating aspects of ourselves is cool. You're all beautiful, and when someone compliments you, SAY THANK YOU and smile. Men do it all the time, why don't women? Let's start something new!

    XO K

  36. Aw what a beautiful post! Although I am happy to see that the world is heading towards a more "all-body-loving" world, the tough reality is that everyone will still be self-conscious about at least one part of their body. So yes, it is important to keep the positivity in mind and to remember that you are beautiful-even if it doesn't meet society's definition of beautiful. (Because society's definition of beauty is complete BS uh). Anyway, great post and thank you for sharing :)
    Olivia | Her Name Was Celebration

  37. Awe, this is a great post

  38. I think of that movie ALL the time when I am judging myself! I love all of your thoughts on this and the advice is spot on! It can really be difficult being a blogger at times, and sometimes we just need to step back and appreciate our body for what it is!

    Denise | Fashion Love Letters

  39. great post
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  40. Beautiful interesting post. Kiss

  41. Fantastic positive post! I need to work more on the whole "learn to accept a compliment" thing, it's easier said than done for sure

    x- Naomi in Wonderland

  42. great post...

    kisses from dubai ♥

  43. What a beautiful and inspiring post. As you know I too struggled with accepting myself for who I am and often compared myself to others simply because society would not accept me because I looked different. I am not conventional but then neither are my actions I rebel against conformity and so do you! Also that dick who told you have an 'ugly smile' is clearly projecting their own issues onto you. You are beautiful and don't let anyone tell you any differently xx

  44. Great post! Thank you for sharing! Kiss

  45. Isn't it crazy how hard it is to accept yourself? Such a great post dear!


  46. I so agree with you. I think we as women are so hard on ourselves. Constantly comparing ourselves to others and celebrities. This post was great.

  47. So much pressure on women from the media to look a certain way. I agree with you about accepting compliments and am trying to do the same! X

  48. This is a brilliant post Rachel and very thought-provoking. Like you, I was very tough on myself as a sixteen year old *shudders* and so I'm glad to say things have changed since then. I've found assuming everyone is thinking kind things about everyone else can be hugely beneficial, instead of automatically assuming the worst :)

    ps. the guy who said you had an unattractive smile will be smacked in the face by karma sometime very soon, especially as he was so hideously wrong - you're beautiful!

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice


  49. Great tips, Rachel! I'm going to put them into practice. Feeling much better now.

    Jasmine x
    For a Real Woman

  50. I need accept many of my flaws
    This post make my monday~

  51. I love this post! It is so dead on! Thank your for sharing this!
    Melanie @

  52. Beautiful post Rachell! I loved each point xxx

  53. So awesome! Hope you have a lovely day.

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  54. These are such great tips! Thank you for sharing!

  55. I loved this post, I think it's so hard to accept compliments. They make me want to say something negative to kind of balance it out ha.

    Corinne x

  56. Great post!

  57. Beautiful post Rachel! The physical flaws makes us uniquely us and we should all be proud of it.

    ~xo Sheree
    IG: @poshclassymom

  58. These are very true and effective. I n the end you're going to have to accept them and you may eventually love them too.
    XoXo from South Africa

  59. great post!
    All the best

  60. Amen girlfriend!! Powerful & inspiring post!

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  62. Such good advices, dear, really inspiring post!! We are so focused on our appearance and so conditioned by the media, that we forget to see our real selves, appreciate and love ourselves just as we are!!
    thanks for sharing this great post!!
    have a wonderful week!!
    xx, Natali

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  63. Rach, the pic of your smiling at Hamilton is the BEST pic of you! You are just shining, you look so happy, I love it!!!! Bec xo

  64. I love this post, I'm one of those people who are worried people can see my celluite.

  65. great post
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  66. In the front and the back of the neckline, there are all beads sewn on the tulle. a line prom dresses

  67. What an inspiration post! Love it. As I get older, I'm learning to accept my flaws instead of obsessing over them.

  68. This post was super interesting and gives me a reminder to love myself just as I'm!
    Thx for sharing!


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